Post by kyastras on Oct 19, 2009 8:31:47 GMT -5
Lazy sacks of fat...
Survey found that women hate cooking, swear in front of their kids and yell at them, don't do any housework and often live in a mess, don't like their kids, feed them junk food or find them boring and yet - it is none of their fault!
The fault lies with the society that is putting unrealistic expectations on women. What they need is... empowerment!
read on...
MUMS have admitted swearing in front of their children and at times not even liking them, a survey has found.
Some also find finger painting with their children boring, yell, use the TV as a babysitter or have messy houses. And they feel bad about it.
The realmums.com.au Are you a bad mother? survey found many felt they were doing a bad job, often because of unrealistic ideals imposed by others.
One in 10 swore in front of their children, hated or didn't do housework, didn't like playing with their children or found it boring, and returned to work when the children were young to get time away.
One in seven hated cooking or fed their children junk food or takeaway, and more than one in 10 yelled at them or used the TV or computer as a babysitter.
Mother of three Amanda Cox, 38, started Real Mums almost four years ago after the parenting industry made her feel inadequate and she saw a gap in support for parents of older children.
She will launch a Bad Mothers Club on November 6 to empower the growing number of mums like her.
Through social events and support, the club will give pestered parents permission to have fun and stop beating themselves up about achieving an unrealistic ideal.
"Most mums experience feelings of isolation, inadequacy and lack of support, and would really like a little bit of time out for themselves," Ms Cox said.
"Mums ... feel like they're doing a bad job at mothering, that they can't do things 'right'. And sometimes they don't even like their kids!"
Ms Cox, who has three sons aged one, six and eight, said mums needed non-judgmental emotional support and tactics to deal with children that worked in the real world.
Her survey also found four in 10 wanted friends and support, 22 per cent wanted to know they weren't alone and were "normal", 15 per cent wanted more sleep and 13 per cent more money.
Half wanted time to themselves for holidays, time with partners, and going to the toilet in peace.
"These women are calling themselves bad mothers based on an outside perception of what's bad or what's good," Ms Cox said. "There's no such thing as a bad mother or a good mother."
www.heraldsun.com.au/news/women-struggling-to-be-good-mums/story-e6frf7jo-1225788483430
Survey found that women hate cooking, swear in front of their kids and yell at them, don't do any housework and often live in a mess, don't like their kids, feed them junk food or find them boring and yet - it is none of their fault!
The fault lies with the society that is putting unrealistic expectations on women. What they need is... empowerment!
read on...
MUMS have admitted swearing in front of their children and at times not even liking them, a survey has found.
Some also find finger painting with their children boring, yell, use the TV as a babysitter or have messy houses. And they feel bad about it.
The realmums.com.au Are you a bad mother? survey found many felt they were doing a bad job, often because of unrealistic ideals imposed by others.
One in 10 swore in front of their children, hated or didn't do housework, didn't like playing with their children or found it boring, and returned to work when the children were young to get time away.
One in seven hated cooking or fed their children junk food or takeaway, and more than one in 10 yelled at them or used the TV or computer as a babysitter.
Mother of three Amanda Cox, 38, started Real Mums almost four years ago after the parenting industry made her feel inadequate and she saw a gap in support for parents of older children.
She will launch a Bad Mothers Club on November 6 to empower the growing number of mums like her.
Through social events and support, the club will give pestered parents permission to have fun and stop beating themselves up about achieving an unrealistic ideal.
"Most mums experience feelings of isolation, inadequacy and lack of support, and would really like a little bit of time out for themselves," Ms Cox said.
"Mums ... feel like they're doing a bad job at mothering, that they can't do things 'right'. And sometimes they don't even like their kids!"
Ms Cox, who has three sons aged one, six and eight, said mums needed non-judgmental emotional support and tactics to deal with children that worked in the real world.
Her survey also found four in 10 wanted friends and support, 22 per cent wanted to know they weren't alone and were "normal", 15 per cent wanted more sleep and 13 per cent more money.
Half wanted time to themselves for holidays, time with partners, and going to the toilet in peace.
"These women are calling themselves bad mothers based on an outside perception of what's bad or what's good," Ms Cox said. "There's no such thing as a bad mother or a good mother."
www.heraldsun.com.au/news/women-struggling-to-be-good-mums/story-e6frf7jo-1225788483430
. She's never seen a "good mother" role model in her life either, so yeah, how the hell would she know?